*Update: the video link I shared was struck down. So I'll share this one that isn't the original video, but instead a reaction to parts of it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ycRGG9WUfnQ
I absolutely believe that sexual deviancy is largely influenced by life experiences, especially during childhood and early teen years.
WARNING: First off, I apologize for the content of this video that I am sharing. That said, I believe it is important to pay attention to your adversary and know the grander plan in order to make decisions in the here and now to combat it. I also want to give fair warning that I may be using anatomical terms and explaining sexual topics in this post.
Now this video I shared, originally put out by the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus, talks about coming after children with the gay agenda and converting your kids. Now some may say it’s tongue-in-cheek or satire or even trolling. And while to a certain extent it may be, I would also say that even if so, it’s a Freudian slip. They said the quiet part out loud. That being that it is, in fact, about the children. And that the “gay agenda” is about far more than what people were led to believe leading up to the legalization of gay marriage.
See the argument that was used and that so many people fell for (including myself in certain ways) was this argument that it’s just about people being able to do what they want in their bedroom, love is love, and that it wouldn’t go further than that. People who countered that it wouldn’t end at gay marriage, that next we’d see bestiality or pedophilia or other forms of sexual deviancy were belittled and called conspiracy theorists and homophobes. I saw that first hand when a girl in one of my government classes at UVU weighed in on the issue expressing her concern that the legalization and normalization of gay marriage would not be the end of it. She was called homophobic by others in the class who dismissed such claims. Yet take a moment to think about all that has changed, and how rapidly it has changed, in our society ever since that Supreme Court decision.
I opposed gay marriage before it was legalized, I opposed it right after it was legalized, and I still oppose it now. The fruits of the decision for the country are now being clearly manifested.
I’ve previously alluded to the fact that I have theories on the origins of my own sexuality, and on sexuality in general. I didn’t feel quite ready to share at the time, but I’d like to dig into that now. As I said at the beginning of this post, I absolutely believe that sexual deviancy is in large part influenced by and created from experiences during youth. I have talked with a good number of gay men about very personal aspects of their lives. I’ve also gathered information from others through video interviews, studies, groups I’ve attended, and through blogs. I have seen quite consistently that there are certain things that happened to them during their youth; sexual abuse, physical/emotional abuse, neglectful parents, lack of a father, disconnection from other males or lack of friendship, exposure to pornography, bullying, sexual experiences with friends, mental health issues. Now I know the argument of “correlation doesn’t equal causation”. I get that. There were some gay men I’ve talked with or learned about that didn’t have a clearly distinctive experience in their youth. But the majority I have talked with and learned about have. When there is heavy correlation, that is often when there should be investigation into links and causation.
To look at my own life, there were multiple experiences that happened before I was even old enough to ejaculate or even understand what sex was. I had a friend when I was young who I essentially played “doctor” with. A “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” kind of a situation if you will. I was curious about my body at the time and it was from that curiosity that he and I began doing that. However, there were a couple times we were caught, and without much explanation from my parents I was berated and told that what I was doing was wrong. Because they didn’t explain what was wrong though, this led to a lot of confusion for me and is the lightning rod that led me to find pornography as I didn’t feel comfortable turning to my parents with my questions and instead found the internet. I honestly believe pornography was the largest influence in developing my sexuality as it is now. What started as playing “doctor” out of a curiosity to learn about my body turned into an obsession to see as many bodies as I could when I found porn, and turned into fantasies about in-person experiences which completely corrupted my view of friendships with other boys and led to tons of other issues down the line.
There is so much I could dive into with regards to the formation of my own sexuality, but I don’t want that to be the focus of this post. So for now I’ll just lighting-round it and list off a few others: a deep yearning for male friendships and connections but lacking them completely and having an aversion to men because of porn and other problems. A turbulent relationship with my dad and lack of connection with him for a portion of my childhood (I love my dad and he has completely changed and is an amazing man). A belief that sex with men was better because of things I had been exposed to online through blogs, porn sites, and Youtube videos. In fact, I remember clearly one gay Youtuber I used to watch saying it was “unfortunate that (this guy) is straight, because as a gay guy I could pleasure him much better than a woman because men know what men want.” Depression and anxiety, as well as a deep fear and lack of trust in talking about my struggles with anyone.
I’ve heard more recently that children are now being pressured by their peers/parents/teachers to adopt or claim a certain sexuality/gender because it gets them more attention and love, and I’ve heard that children as young as 12 or under are experiencing hate just for being straight. I’ve talked with some people in my life who are in the medical field who have informed me kids as young as 5 years old are coming in feeling depressed and wanting to die, feeling confused about their sexuality, and their parents are all for it and believe they are what they say they are and are willing to give their children hormone blockers. Doctors are all in on it too. And states where conversion therapy has been banned, a therapist or a doctor cannot even legally encourage a client to look at various avenues to approaching their sexuality or gender identity and instead have to push them to act on it or get surgery.
The argument around this used to be that sexuality was something you’re born with. But no gay gene has been found. No specific abnormality has been found. And more recently, even using the video I shared as proof, the argument has instead shifted to sexuality being fluid and something you choose. So which is it? Am I homophobic for suggesting that based on my experiences and the people I have heard from that sexuality is in fact a product of environment? And therefore the assertion that they’re “coming to convert your children” is in fact completely real and serious? I believe that it is real. I can see in my own life that my sexuality was influenced and shaped by what happened to me as a child. That doesn’t change the fact that I am attracted to men and not women, but it gives me answers to some extent on the source of those attractions.
And lest you think I’m speaking only to LGBT experiences, there is sexual deviancy within heterosexuality as well. For example, it is estimated that 75-95% of those who go into prostitution were abused as a child. (https://sex-crimes.laws.com/prostitution/prostitution-statistics) A majority of those who molest or rape were abused at some point themselves. So no, it’s not even specific to LGBT issues.
I guess what I’m trying to get at is that there actually IS danger to this push of the “gay agenda” and normalizing teaching sexuality to children. Children should be more concerned about playing with sticks and rocks in the mud rather than learning about what John and Oliver or Bruce and Caitlyn are doing in their bedroom. And yet, society today is seeing drag queen story hour for children, major networks for kids shows like Nickelodeon and Cartoon Network pushing out music videos and commercials all about the Pride flag and sexuality, there are child drag queens, the Pride flag is everywhere and is pushed through companies and through government, Youtube labels “dick or dildo” videos as safe for kids, pedophilia is being pushed to be normalized under the new banner of M.A.P.S., and educators around the country are now teaching kids as young as first graders how to masturbate and pleasure themselves.
If you are a Christian, you should know that this is all part of Satan’s plan to corrupt and destroy lives and souls. The legalization of gay marriage was just one step down that plan. I am not now, nor will I ever advocate for poor treatment of people. I do not hate “gay” people, and I really believe I am at the point of loving myself more fully than I have for the majority of my life. But truth must be spoken, and the “gay agenda” is dangerous and they are “coming for your kids” and will permanently alter and weaken this nation, lead to lost souls, and permanently alter the lives of those most affected by it.
